When Love Is Lost?

Watch a cloud in the sky. It seems stationary. Slowly it moves and after sometime, without our realizing, that cloud is gone. Sometimes love disappears from a relationship like that cloud.

When the relationship begins, everything looks ok. The communication is great. Not only verbal but also non-verbal communication between the partners is excellent. Slowly the rot sets in and there come a time when they stop communicating except when needed. The communication becomes need based. Earlier it was love based. What is the difference between need based and love based communication?

Relationship and communication - In love based communication the partners talk to each other about everything on the earth. They speak about their love; their needs, their dreams, their aspirations and everything else that makes them feel connected. In need based communication, the partners talk to each other minimally. What is required to keep the partnership together is the communication limit and nothing beyond that. It may revolve around bill payments, and other such talks. But this kind of communication gives no joy. It is the communication of dead relationship.

Reviving communication in relationship - To revive the communication the obvious answer is to talk again. Go back to earlier days and recollect what all you were talking. Begin talking like that again. As the gap between the partners has widened, this kind of communication becomes difficult in the beginning, but slowly it will break all the barriers.