Marriage
- A Beautiful Relationship
Marriage is a beautiful relationship. Unfortunately,
during the current years, more marriages are getting broken than
ever. People are not able to co exist together in marriage. What
are the possible reasons? Why marriages are breaking faster, why
are we not getting what we want from marriage? Are our expectations
wrong? Or our choice of partner is faulty? Let us find out.
The major factors that contribute to success in marriage
are - Knowing what we desire in the marriage, selecting the right
partner for fulfilling those desires, defining marriage goals
and getting approval about them from the partner, discussing all
the issues that hurt the relationship, changing your own style
of relating so that marriage becomes stronger and not giving up
so easily if cracks develop and try to save the marriage. a broken
marriage is not pleasant for any one and hurts.
A marriage is like a cart on two wheels. Both the
partners are the wheels. If one wheel becomes weaker or if the
wheels are different in size, the cart stops moving. It is similar
with marriage. If one partner over dominates or demands more only
for himself/herself, the marriage will suffer. For a marriage
to succeed, the partners have to take care of each other's desires,
emotions, physical needs and intellectual needs. Both the partners
have to support each other to grow and not criticize each other.
For example, if a partner knows that his/her spouse is weak in
a certain area, it is the duty of the other partner to compensate
that and not criticize. Another factor is fear of conflict. Sometimes,
the conflicts become so pain giving that partners avoid talking
to each other fearing that a conflict may arise. This fear of
conflict will kill all communication. Instead what is needed is-
healthy communication and peaceful resolution of conflicts in
a spirit of give and take. Why should a partner be afraid of talking
to other partner in a marriage? That sounds ridiculous, but this
is true. This phase spells near death of a marriage. Marriage
is a beautiful phase of life. The secret lies in how to carry
on for a lifetime.
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